Today's plan was to sleep in and just have a relaxing, quiet day at home then go over to a friend's parents' place in the evening to celebrate his birthday.
My son was up around 11am, made himself eggs and baked beans for brunch, did his chores, read Time magazine on the deck for awhile ("Mom, I really like Time. Do you know why? They have all sorts of interesting information in there. Did you know that WalMart in the States pays higher minimum wage than other stores in the States? It says so in Time; just a minute, I'll get the article. They have other stuff like that in there too. It's a good magazine") then came in for a rest from the growing humidity outside. For supper, I made up a field-greens salad with chicken and cuke slices and orange slices and crushed corn tortillas. "I like how you did the cucumbers and oranges, Mom. Very nice presentation."
Mosquitoes seem drawn to my son, and often leave lump-sized evidence of their snacking on him, so he was quite concerned about being outside this evening; but we made a large homemade birthday card and that helped him focus on the upcoming celebration.
We had a very nice, relaxing evening celebrating our friend's birthday with his family and a few friends. My son had brought along a book and spent most of the evening reading and snacking on fruit (and some vegetables and some chips), then had a small water fight with the birthday boy!
This blog was initially set up as a means of communicating with my son's team. Since then, I've heard from other parents with similar stories. If you are living with challenges or journeying alongside someone who is, you are not alone. There are many of us. I'm a single adoptive Mom (http://richesofsimplicity.blogspot.com/) of a young man who lives with many abilities and many diagnoses. We have journeyed together through many challenges and a few adventures over the years as my son has tried to find space in this world that makes him feel more comfortable, an attempt made especially difficult when living with Attachment Disorder, PDD-NOS (Autism), Developmental Coordination Disorder, ADHD, prenatal substance exposure, etc. Some of the strongest elements used in this journey have been music, visual arts, therapeutic parenting, team-connection, boundary-setting, boundary-setting, boundary-setting, communication skills, community-building, continual lifeskills training, and elements of Theraplay. (Click here for some written resources.) On this journey, there is laughter and tears and growth and hope. The greatest of these is hope.