This blog was initially set up as a means of communicating with my son's team. Since then, I've heard from other parents with similar stories. If you are living with challenges or journeying alongside someone who is, you are not alone. There are many of us. I'm a single adoptive Mom (http://richesofsimplicity.blogspot.com/) of a young man who lives with many abilities and many diagnoses. We have journeyed together through many challenges and a few adventures over the years as my son has tried to find space in this world that makes him feel more comfortable, an attempt made especially difficult when living with Attachment Disorder, PDD-NOS (Autism), Developmental Coordination Disorder, ADHD, prenatal substance exposure, etc. Some of the strongest elements used in this journey have been music, visual arts, therapeutic parenting, team-connection, boundary-setting, boundary-setting, boundary-setting, communication skills, community-building, continual lifeskills training, and elements of Theraplay. (Click here for some written resources.) On this journey, there is laughter and tears and growth and hope. The greatest of these is hope.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
If you are new to the world of parenting children living with Attachment Disorder, some of the biggest pieces of preparation you can do for yourself and your family is to practice self-care, read as much helpful information as you can manage, seek out training, seek out and build a network of professional supports, and seek out and build a network of support from friends/family. (If you have friends,family,or community members who want a starting point to understanding how Attachment Disorder presents itself, the following site offers a basic list: http://www.adoptionarticlesdirectory.com/Article/Reactive-Attachment-Disorder-Checklist/166).
For those looking for a list, here are some resources I've found over the years, not in any particular order:
**I don't necessarily agree with every single opinion/idea/suggestion/recommendation expressed in all of the resources on this page (nor do I remember everything I've read!) but it's still been interesting to learn of other people's views and experiences.
Theraplay (Jernberg/Booth - HIGHLY RECOMMENDED FOR ALL FAMILIES!)
Don't Touch My Heart (Mansfield/Waldmann)
Windows to Our Children (Oaklander)
Parenting Your Adopted Older Child (McCreight)
Lonely, Sad and Angry (Ingersoll/Goldstein)
Troubled Transplants (Delaney/Kunstal)
Secrets of Discipline (Morrish)
If Problems Talked (Zimmerman/Dickerson)
Born to Win (James/Jongeward)
Parenting with Love and Logic (Foster Cline)
High Risk: Children Without a Conscience (Magid/McKelvey)
Chill Out! Taming Anger (Ray Ali)
A Volcano in My Tummy (Pudney)
More to follow.....