This blog was initially set up as a means of communicating with my son's team. Since then, I've heard from other parents with similar stories. If you are living with challenges or journeying alongside someone who is, you are not alone. There are many of us. I'm a single adoptive Mom ( of a young man who lives with many abilities and many diagnoses. We have journeyed together through many challenges and a few adventures over the years as my son has tried to find space in this world that makes him feel more comfortable, an attempt made especially difficult when living with Attachment Disorder, PDD-NOS (Autism), Developmental Coordination Disorder, ADHD, prenatal substance exposure, etc. Some of the strongest elements used in this journey have been music, visual arts, therapeutic parenting, team-connection, boundary-setting, boundary-setting, boundary-setting, communication skills, community-building, continual lifeskills training, and elements of Theraplay. (Click here for some written resources.) On this journey, there is laughter and tears and growth and hope. The greatest of these is hope.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

A Lovely Time Was Had By All

October 21, 2010

We've had a very nice evening.

Chef came home from school, gave me a picture he'd coloured at school, accepted a hug from me, and went to his room for a rest.

When he got up, he threw his laundry into the washer, asked if he could make supper while he was waiting for teatowels that were in the washer, and cooked a lovely supper of pasta with fried ground turkey and fried onions with tomato sauce. After supper, Chef did the dishes (I haven't checked them yet, but Chef had worked quickly and without issue), made popcorn, cleaned the downstairs bathroom and the upstairs bathroom, finished his laundry, made his bed (bottom sheet, top sheet, blanket!) had a bath (first bath in weeks, though did have a shower on his last respite weekend) and changed into pyjamas (first time in two weeks). Chef visited with his baby niece while we watched a video together, then he brushed his teeth, said goodnight, and went to bed.

There were only a couple of prompts throughout the entire evening; twice, Chef came into the living room and was getting ready to relax for the evening and I asked if he was finished everything he needed to finish. Chef normally would only have one chore in the evening plus a weekend chore, but he hasn't really been doing any of his chores for weeks and he knows he needs to do them before having free time. After each of the two times when I asked him if he was finished everything he needed to finish, he took some time to think about it then independently continued on with what he needed to do without any further prompting.

There had been talk at one point about the possibility of going out to see a movie but that hadn't been til after Chef was already on a roll with his chores.

We've had a very nice evening.

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